🤯 INCRÍVEL: 28 Heartbreaking Realizations About Fake Friends 😲
Not every friend can blossom into your BFF. It’s rare to find someone who wants to sport matching bracelets, stay up all night exchanging secrets and give you a key to their apartment that you’re free to use any time you want. And that’s fine! We need relationships that are low-stakes too; that doesn’t make them any less meaningful.
But something no one should make space for is a toxic friendship. Threads users have recently been revealing how they found out a former “friend” wasn’t actually a fan of them at all, so we’ve gathered their most heartbreaking stories below. Keep reading to also find conversations with the woman who started this thread and Amanda Diaz, creator of Friendship With Intention. And be sure to upvote the stories that hit home for you!
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We were in college. Broke, but ambitious. Always talking about dreams, success, and how we’d make it big together.
Or so I thought.
One day, I landed a small freelance gig. Nothing major, but enough to cover a few meals and celebrate. Excited, I told him.
His response? A forced smile. A half-hearted “Nice, bro.” Then silence.
I brushed it off—maybe he was having a bad day.
But then it kept happening. Every win I shared, he downplayed. Every struggle, he magnified. When I failed, he was weirdly comforting. When I won, he disappeared.
The final straw?
I overheard him at a party. Telling someone I’d “just gotten lucky” and “wasn’t that smart.”
That’s when I knew. He never wanted me to succeed—he just wanted me to stay small.
I left that night and never looked back. Best decision I ever made.
And here’s the crazy part… Once I walked away, my life leveled up fast. New opportunities. Better people. More success. It was like I had been carrying dead weight for years.
Some people aren’t your friends—they’re just keeping you from becoming who you’re meant to be.
To find out how this discussion started in the first place, we got in touch with @high.imhi on Threads, who was kind enough to have a conversation with Bored Panda.
“I started this conversation because I was looking through some old memories on my Snapchat of people I used to be friends with,” she shared. “I had this realization about my old friends from a few years ago, which is why we are no longer friends.”
When I bought my first house, they made fun of me not having a lot of furniture constantly… constantly… Meanwhile, I bought my first house.
When I called her ten times over the course of six hours and she never picked up or called me back. And then proceeded to not come to my child’s funeral. Which was the reason for the ten calls.
We also asked the author why she believes some individuals pretend to be friends with people they don’t actually care about.
“I’m not sure,” she said. “That’s never been the type of person I am, so it doesn’t really make sense to me. It may be because they see something in that person that they wish they saw in themselves. Also probably because misery does indeed love company.”
“I’ve realized that some people hate to see a person happy with themselves because they don’t know how to be, and they would rather tear someone else down and make them miserable as well, instead of working on themselves so that they can be happy with who they are,” the OP continued.
When she handed me her phone to read through texts with a boyfriend & I scrolled up too far & saw “no I literally hate Mackenzie. She’s the worst friend ever.”
I cut it off & didn’t speak another word to her
When I was asleep in the car after drinking with my [underwear] showing, and they posted it on their public story, not even in the close friends
When I made a custom Sonic the Hedgehog cake for her sons birthday and she deliberately gave me the wrong address. Then when I got to the right place I found out she bought a cake from the store. I sent her pictures of the progress all morning and she said nothing.
Finally, we asked what she thought of the replies to her post. “[They shocked] me, I honestly didn’t expect so many people to relate to that post,” the author shared. “The ones that really stood out to me were the ones that said their friends set them up to be se***lly assaulted. It’s so crazy to believe that some people would really go that far as to tear someone down.”
When she said “We obviously see our relationship differently.” She called my parents/grandparents family, she didn’t need permission to come for meals or sleepovers, we’ve been “sisters” since babies, and then 30+ years later I’m misunderstanding that? I’ll never forgive that level of hurt.
Over heard her when we were on vacation abroad together. Heard loud and clear her mocking me. She never knew I knew. Then noticed how often she made ” negging” comments in my direction. When we got back to our home country I went no contact. It has been 8 years and I have zero regrets
We were also lucky enough to get in touch with Amanda Diaz, creator of Friendship With Intention, to hear her thoughts on what makes a great friend.
“Many qualities make a great friend but these three in particular stick out to me: A great friend is empathetic. They actively listen to you and make an effort to understand your perspective and feelings,” Amanda shared. “They listen to you with grace and compassion and not judgement.”
When I was struggling and unemployed she used to call me every day to talk. We had been best friends for 5 years and roommates in college. I loved her like a sister. Then I got a job and I LOVED it. Suddenly she stopped calling. Kept canceling on me. Finally one day I realized it and I asked, were you just keeping me around to feel better about yourself? She replied “yes”
Last time we spoke.
Next, she noted that a great friend is supportive. “They care about being there for you during the highs and lows of life and want to see you be successful and happy,” she continued. “In my blog post, 60 Ways To Be A Supportive Friend, we dive deep into using a variety of methods to show up for your friends in impactful ways.”
Finally, a great friend is trustworthy. “You should be able to trust them with your vulnerabilities and feel comfortable being yourself around them,” Amanda says. “They should be your safe space.”
Welp… When I was 19, my best friend put a gun to my head while we were at the club because he wanted to impress some cartel dude we were acquainted with
He thought showing that he’s willing to do whatever would make them want to put him on
They didn’t. They thought he looked crazy and showed that he had no loyalty so they cut him off completely and blacklisted him from their club
When she got mad because she once asked me to arrange her gender reveal and I was like: “YES GIRL.” I was so happy, she told me about their pregnancy before her man (none of my business). And suddenly there was a post on IG saying they were expecting a girl. So I texted her: OMG CONGRATULATIONS!! Do you still want like, the gender reveal party for your family? Considering they’re not on IG?
And she went OFF on me like: JUST BECAUSE YOU WERE SINGLE AND PREGNANT DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO MAKE MY PREGNANCY ABOUT YOU AND MAKE IT YOURS, THAT’S DISGUSTING.
And I just: Ok 🤐
And then I got removed and blocked everywhere by both her and her partner. Mind you this was my best friend and godmother to my child 🙃 I had also done some preps for the party, like ordered a he/she cake, got games for during the gender reveal, so I had invested money in this and I?? Yeah
And why is it so heartbreaking to find out a friend didn’t actually care about you? “Because you valued, trusted, and cared about them and their well-being,” Amanda shared. “You invested your time and energy into who they are as a person and the friendship because you genuinely liked them, and you thought they felt the same. It can leave you feeling lost, confused, and questioning your worth.”
When she set me up to be SA’d after blacking out from my drink being spiked in her house. I found out the next day she gave permission for the guy to come into the room and lock the door while I was blacked out. Didn’t come to the hospital with me to support me and I found out the same night she was with my attacker and cousins playing cards. I supported this woman with her child, she had been around my children and I was a GOOD friend to her. Hard lesson learnt.
After I started losing weight, she said I lost water weight. Even though the photos showed progress.
When I said I landed a new deal for my upcoming magazine, she said she didn’t want to talk about that.
I was like, [why?]?
I ignore her like the bad seed that is, and the friends that she hangs out with now bad mouth her a lot. I say nothing. Not my business
But thankfully, we can overcome the pain of being betrayed by a friend. “My best advice is to allow yourself to grieve the loss of the friendship you believed you had and find a healthy outlet to process your feelings,” Amanda told Bored Panda. “In my blog post Friendship Betrayal: What It Looks Like And How To Cope With It, we explore 7 ways to navigate our lives and our big feelings when it comes to friendship betrayal.”
I had a friend who moved to another state. I kept 2 of her kids for 6 weeks so they could finish their school year. She’d come in town on weekends and clean their rooms / bathroom restock their snacks etc. One weekend she went to a concert with another one of her friends – didn’t tell me or ask if I wanted to go and left the boys at home with me. Keep in mind they lived with me for free. I never got kicked down a few hundred bucks or anything.
Her reason for not inviting me she didn’t know if I liked the artist 😒. I forgave her because grace…She has been back to the city multiple times and I only found out she was here via FB. She always told me people are s***ty and that I don’t need a lot of friends what she was saying was she was s***ty and she wasn’t my friends but if my dumb a*s was going to help her then oh well 😒 She called me Sister as well…go figure lol
Finally, Amanda added, “While it [is bad] to learn that someone you thought was a friend actually isn’t, it’s also a blessing in disguise. I am a person of faith, so I believe these hurtful experiences will be used for your good in other ways. That could be to help you identify friendship red flags sooner, give you wisdom when forming new friendships, or teach you to become a better friend to someone else. Appreciate the good that the friendship brought into your life, and don’t dwell on the loss, learn from it.”
When I got engaged and instead of saying congratulations she asked how? You’re so mean how did someone propose to you she asked. I’ve known her since 14 yrs old.
Last minute invites. Never supported my business. Never went to my Mom’s funeral…secretly dated my then boyfriend….list is lengthy
When the subtle subliminal remarks started slipping into conversations, laced with just enough truth from my past to cut deep. When the energy shifted from support to silent competition, and the jealousy started seeping through in backhanded compliments. When the distance wasn’t just physical but emotional, like she couldn’t stand to see me evolve beyond the version of me she was once comfortable with. That’s when I knew.
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