Sibling rivalry is quite normal among kids. Of course, itās something parents have to manage, but sometimes, it even goes on well into adulthood. According to the National Organization for Women, one in two adults still argue and compete with their siblings.
For these two sisters, the tensions reached a boiling point during NYE. One sister tried to wind the other up by wearing her five-year-old daughterās clothes without permission. Later, the mother found her daughterās skirt in her sisterās luggage, prompting a huge fight over text. She felt a bit guilty about going through her things, but protecting her daughter was more important.
Bored Panda reached out to the mother, u/IsEveryoneOkorNo, and she kindly agreed to have a chat with us. Read on to find out why her relationship with her sister has been so strained and more about her extended family dynamics.
A woman went through her sisterās suitcase to find her daughterās skirt
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The Redditor tells Bored Panda that her sister is battling many demons, making interactions with her especially difficult
When we reached out to the mother who posted this story, u/IsEveryoneOkorNo, she kindly agreed to tell us more about what her relationship with her sister has been like before this incident.
According to the Redditor, they have always had an on-and-off relationship. The trouble started, as the user recalls, in high school. āHer eating disorder started in high school and thatās when she started being really cruel to me,ā u/IsEveryoneOkorNo tells Bored Panda.
āShe also had a lot of false memories that she will go on rants about, and itās difficult to listen to because I know for a fact these things didnāt happen, but then she just attacks and blames, which is very triggering.ā
According to the Redditor, her sister also struggles with mental health issues and dependence on substances. āSheās just a very difficult person now,ā the single mother explains. āShe lives with her sugar daddy, and they have a very toxic relationship as well. Itās very violent on both ends.ā
Her current living situation allows the mother to take care of her daughter better
The comments under her post varied: some people showed support, urging the mother to stay strong and lower contact with her sister. Others, however, didnāt understand how she could live like this and allow her daughter to be around such toxic people.
But such is life; we sometimes have to experience the bad to get to the good. The Redditor clarifies why, at 38, she still lives with her mother. āA lot of people still live at home, this isnāt a choice for me, itās this or be homeless, I guess. Or live in a very unsafe, violent neighborhood.ā
āIād rather live in an āunsafeā environment that I can predict rather than one with strangers [who] could do much worse than my motherās lack of empathy and accountability,ā u/IsEveryoneOkorNo admits.
Although the living conditions are less than ideal for her daughter, the mother tries to look at them as educational. ā[Iām] teaching her what type of behavior is safe and unsafe, right and wrong, etc. My daughter communicates with me very well [about] what she needs, what upsets her, and what makes her happy.ā
The mother talks about her daughter with much pride. āSheās a very kind and happy kid, she does well at school despite having severe ADHD. She goes out of her way to be kind to other kids, especially younger kids, and sheās always sharing whether itās her toys or snacks.ā
āParents will compliment how kind she is and thank her for being kind to their kids, and that makes me feel like Iām doing something right despite the dysfunction that our home goes through from time to time,ā the mom tells us.
She feels blessed to be able to spend a lot of time with her daughter. Living with her mother allows her to do that, not having to constantly work paycheck to paycheck. āI keep my daughter safe and I donāt have to worry if sheās safe in a strangerās care. She was going to an afterschool program for a while so I could work longer, but then they lost her, found her after searching for 45 minutes, but that was enough for me to say never again.ā
The Redditor hopes to give her daughter the emotionally stable childhood that she never had
u/IsEveryoneOkorNo admits that she doesnāt want her daughter to have no contact with family members, but will always prioritize the girlās safety. āI have been through a lot as a child and as an adult, and these experiences help me keep my daughter physically, mentally, and emotionally safe, no matter who is trying to wreak havoc,ā she says. āMy daughter loves her aunt, which is conflicting for me because although Iām sure itās there somewhere, I just donāt love my sister the way I used to.ā
āI have a huge wall up with her, I canāt trust her with anything because anything said to her is always used against me. I donāt want my daughter to not have any family but having no one is better than unsafe family.ā
The Redditor is also trying to break generational patterns. She wants her daughter to have the emotional stability she herself never experienced with her own parents. āIām not perfect but I always mend and repair with my daughter if we have a tough day. Thatās something I never got as a kid with either of my parents and I still donāt,ā the mom admits.
āBoth my parents are narcissists with mental illness. I see a therapist regularly. I am doing my best with what I have. And my daughter is a happy kid, thatās all that matters to me, is that sheās happy, fed, safe, and thriving. And sheās all those things. Even with selfish family members.ā
In the comments, the woman shared more about how their mother keeps enabling her sister
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