𤯠INCRĂVEL: âThat Will Turn Him Gayâ: 66 âInsane Parentsâ Who Seem To Have Had Kids Only To Make Their Lives Difficult đ˛
Parents are usually the people we turn to for guidance. Theyâre often the ones teaching life lessons, offering support when things go wrong, and helping their kids figure out the world one awkward mistake at a time.Â
But every now and then, the roles seem completely reversed. Sometimes itâs the parents who leave everyone else wondering if theyâre the ones who need a serious timeout and a long conversation about common sense. And yes, weâre talking about the kind of behavior that makes you stop mid-scroll and mutter, âThere is absolutely no way this is real.â Think moms accusing their daughters of wildly inappropriate things, or dads saying things so shockingly insensitive itâs hard to process.
Thatâs exactly the kind of chaos featured on r/InsaneParents, a Reddit community dedicated to calling out parenting behavior that is confusing, toxic, and downright unbelievable. From controlling outbursts to deeply questionable decisions, these posts are equal parts jaw-dropping and secondhand exhausting. Keep scrolling; some of these stories are so outrageous, theyâll make your own family group chat seem refreshingly normal.
Not my mom and Iâm sure as hell glad. It seems that sheâs doing this to cope with her divorce?
If you ask almost any parent what raising a child is like, chances are youâll get a long sigh, a tired laugh, and some version of ârewarding, but absolutely exhausting.â And honestly, the numbers back that up. Parenting is widely considered one of lifeâs toughest jobs, and not just because of the obvious sleepless nights or endless snack requests.
According to the Kids Mental Health Foundation, nearly half of parents with children under 18 say they always or often feel stressed, while an astonishing 97% reported feeling parenting-related stress within the past month. Even more telling, 30% said that stress hits them often. Basically, if parenting sometimes feels like trying to assemble furniture without instructions while someone screams in the background, thatâs because, for many people, it kind of is.
Yesterday was my niece’s 10th birthday, and her mom (my SIL) posted these decorations on Facebook.
I saw the post while I was at work. I noticed the “Happpy BirthAby” banner first, so then I started looking closer. I scrolled back through her timeline, remembering that she posted something similar for my nephew’s birthday a few weeks ago. Sure enough, it was also AI.
As it turns out, my mother-in-law had already seen the post and showed my niece, so she went home on her birthday expecting the whole shebang. Instead, she came home to nothing.
Disappointed, she asked her mom where her decorations were, and Mom’s response? “Why are you even here? I’m in a bad mood.”
I was able to pick her up a real birthday banner and a few things from the dollar store on my way home from work. I didn’t make it in time for her birthday dinner, but we got the decor up before singing happy birthday and serving cake.
Hopefully after getting called out on it her mom won’t pull something like this again. She was so heartbroken, and I just know that this will end up being a core memory for her.
Experts say that kind of stress doesnât just affect parents individually; it often shapes the atmosphere of the entire household. When stress becomes severe or prolonged, it can have a ripple effect on relationships, communication, and decision-making.
Studies show that 41% of parents say they are so stressed on most days that they struggle to function, while 48% report feeling completely overwhelmed, compared to 20% and 26% of other adults, respectively. Thatâs a huge gap. It highlights just how uniquely demanding parenting can be. When someone is stretched that thin emotionally and mentally, even small challenges can feel enormous. And unfortunately, chronic stress can sometimes cloud judgment in ways that affect the whole family dynamic.
This dude wants to get rid of his child because they have ADHD. As if his right for a peaceful home takes precedent over the child feeling safe, loved and not abandoned. Most of the comments are coddling this dude and not prioritizing the child. I told them that a lot of people get diagnosed and hide their toxic personalities behind their diagnosis… like the OP. I told him his kid isn’t a old pair of L.L. Bean shoes he can return 8 years later. That he’s considering life long harm on the child because of a short term reprieve from responsibility. That their kids self worth shouldn’t be up for debate on facebook. That it’s a public group and his family including his child can see this. Am I wrong here? This triggered me, clearly.
Went no contact a few years back after years of mental/emotional/physical [mistreatment]. This was the first sheâd contacted me in about two years, and she did so from an old email since I have her number blocked.
A lot of this stress depends on what stage of parenting someone is in. During early childhood, many parents are simply trying to survive the basicsâsleep deprivation, adjusting to their new identity as caregivers, juggling work responsibilities, and figuring out how to keep a tiny human alive while still remembering to eat lunch themselves. Itâs a period filled with love, yes, but also exhaustion, uncertainty, and a lot of Googling things at 3 a.m., like, âIs this rash normal?â
Then comes mid-childhood, when the challenges become less about diapers and more about emotional development, school pressures, friendships, and helping kids navigate a rapidly expanding world. Parents suddenly find themselves balancing homework battles, extracurricular schedules, emotional meltdowns, and their own work-life demands. Itâs no longer just physical exhaustionâit becomes mental and emotional management on a whole new level.
And then, thereâs adolescence. If early parenting is physically draining, the teenage years often bring emotional whiplash. This stage introduces a completely different set of stressors, as parents navigate their childâs growing independence, shifting identity, social pressures, and risk-taking behaviors. Add peer influence, social media, and the occasional dramatic âyou just donât understand me,â and itâs no surprise this period can leave many parents feeling like theyâre constantly walking a very delicate tightrope.
I actually only looked at this spam now. I was taking a nap and because I hit stop on my alarm; apparently, per her, I was on cancer medicine. And also was RIP. Iâm typing this now as a ghost! Boo!
She drove dozens of miles in inclement weather to bang on my door.
Then she went on as how she has to take care of EVERYONE including people on other continents. Yes you can perform surgery on someone in Kenya when youâre too scared to take your own bandaid off, and I have to do it instead.
But she is the martyr! She kept insisting on this. Itâs a banana (Iâm keeping this autocorrect)
For context, I had some abnormal results on my yearly exam recently and since this has happened before and not gone away, my doctor wanted to do a biopsy to test for cervical cancer. My father passed from cancer as did multiple family members so itâs a pretty big fear of mine, especially since Iâm only 27.
Went in for the procedure, and while there my doctor recommended I avoid smoking and secondhand smoke exposure due to it increasingly the risk for this to develop into cancer. My doctor even said âwell if itâs to keep you from getting cancer Iâm sure thatâd be reason enough for her to quit smokingâ. I flat out told her it wouldnât be, and she laughed.
Updated my mom on how the procedure went and that recommendation, and this is what I get. Lovely.
Money adds another major layer to all of this. Financial stress is one of the biggest pressures parents face, and itâs only getting heavier. Childcare, education, healthcare, extracurricular activitiesâit all adds up fast. In the U.S., childcare costs have risen by around 26% over the past decade, putting even more strain on already stretched households. Unsurprisingly, 66% of parents report feeling consumed by money-related worries, compared to 39% of other adults. Thatâs a pretty stark difference. When financial pressure gets added to emotional exhaustion, it can create a level of stress that feels relentless.
For context, I got a concussion on Saturday, but it took me until Wednesday to get him to take me to the hospital, and they told us all head injuries were supposed to go to the ER, but sense I only had a headache 4 days later, I was probably going to be fine, but they told me to stay home for a bit, so I got to stay home the rest of that day, and the next, but i was forced to go to school today (Friday) and durring first period my teacher told me I was marked as excused for medical, and afterwards I texted him, as shown above, and thats the last I’ve heard about it.
And beyond all that, modern parents are dealing with challenges previous generations didnât have to navigate in quite the same way. Technology and social media have introduced entirely new concerns, from screen-time battles to online safety worries. Add cultural pressure to âdo parenting perfectly,â endless comparison on social platforms, concerns about childrenâs mental health, and the loneliness that many caregivers quietly experience, and it becomes clear why parenting can feel so overwhelming. Thereâs often this unspoken expectation to somehow do it all flawlessly while smiling through it. Spoiler alert: nobody actually does.
Not kidding, she thinks aliens were flying over. Thereâs thousands of pictures, news articles, and scientific articles about this phenomena but ok.
In the first image, the mom tells the son he shouldnât wear makeup âbecause itâs for girls only.â She also didnât let him wear a bow.
Despite all of these pressures, most parents are doing their best. Theyâre showing up every day, learning as they go, making mistakes, correcting course, and trying to raise their children with care and intention. Parenting doesnât require perfectionâit requires effort, patience, and a willingness to grow. And for the most part, thatâs exactly what many parents strive to do, even when things get messy.
Itâs been 9 years since I last lived with my mom. Throughout my childhood there was constant emotional abuse, and a complete lack of understanding of why her Autistic/ADHD child wasnât like other normal children. She still has no concept of how she couldâve handled things differently. She asked how could I learn to love her again. I responded that thereâs no redemption without progression. Her following reply was the nail in the coffin. Unfortunately I will always continue to grieve the parental figure I so desperately desired since birth.
So I (f21) have been in my relationship for over a year, living with my boyfriend (m20) for over half a year. My mom keeps slipping the idea of us just going ahead and getting married literally ALL THE TIME. I told her it hasn’t been long enough and we aren’t planning on that for at least 2-3 years from this point, but she will respond with “you guys already are living with each other, I don’t want you living in sin”.(I don’t believe in God so the idea of “living in sin” doesn’t bother me and she knows this.)
She brings up wedding ideas and really pushes the idea of marriage no matter how much I tell her no. She thinks I’m ridiculous for wanting to wait and that if I can’t marry him he isn’t the one or we are already more well off than most people our age so why not. I cannot give her any excuse that will satisfy her or get her off my back about this she married for the first time when she was 19 so I guess this is like the norm for her. But this isn’t the societal norm anymore.
Ofc me and him talk about one day getting married/having kids etc etc but these are all far out hypotheticals. We both want time to settle and grow as people with eachother before making HUGE decisions like marriage and children. I’m assuming this is like a moral disconnect that we just won’t be able to get past because she’s a devout Christian and I am an atheist but I am actually so sick of this being the conversation every other phone call.
Which is exactly why these posts stand out so much. They highlight the moments where parenting seems to go spectacularly off the railsâthe kinds of decisions, reactions, and behaviors that make you pause and wonder what on earth was going through someoneâs mind. These arenât your average parenting slip-ups or exhausted mistakes. Theyâre the kind of jaw-dropping moments that leave people collectively blinking at their screens in disbelief. So be honestâwhich one of these posts made you stop, stare, and think, âOkay⌠what was this parent even thinking?â
My narcissistic mother is blocked on everything because she threw a huge tantrum over the fact that I won’t let her be in the delivery room during my child’s birth soon.
I forgot to block her on my business page, so what does she do? She messages the page to get one last spat out at me.
Now she’s really BLOCKED.
So, Iâve been allergic to cinnamon since I was about 7, I am not almost 23. Iâm about to be moving out soon so hopefully this wonât be an issue for much longer BUT my mother wonât stop using cinnamon, and listen, I understand if it were a sudden allergy but it isnât and for a really really long time I didnât even care if it was in the house, but all of the sudden about 2 years ago she started buying loose cinnamon, not just using stuff with cinnamon in it, as well as she suddenly took up baking for a bit almost exclusively deserts with cinnamon. Originally I had the conversation with her about contamination and it ending up in the air when cooking mixing baking and how if she just realllyy wanted to to please warn me and Iâd stay somewhere else for the time being.
She completely stopped warning me and my bedroom door opens into our kitchen, so if she bakes Iâm kinda screwed. And if it were minor or didnât make me react so bad i genuinely wouldnât care so much itâs just so frustrating and a little scary tbh. She will also throw HUGE fits if I even mention something has cinnamon in it.
Sorry if I rambled or just ranted I just cannot understand why she does this. Sheâs very aware and Iâve kinda given up on trying to avoid it a little and just said okay untill I move out (which she is also not happy about.)
For context, I had to move back in with my mother after a sudden breakup that left me with no other choice for the moment. Weâve never had a good relationship and every therapist Iâve had has considered it emotionally [malicious]. My room is 3 feet from hers and she blasts music until late at night (usually at least until midnight). She gets extremely angry when I ask her to turn it down so I can sleep, or just be able to hear my own music, show, etc (that I always listen to through headphones).
These texts were last night after I had just been in the ER for a ruptured ovarian cyst and was trying to relax and recover. Itâs a very fun living situation.
My dad says this is normal parenting but my friends think itâs insane. I feel really out of place at school because Iâm not allowed to dress like others, go out later than 9:30, and I still have a screen time limit on my phone. I am a senior in high school and Iâm graduating in a couple months so I get the whole âmy house my rulesâ thing but I feel like this is a bit extreme.
After an argument, my parents threw me (19m) out without MY social security number, birth certificate, or any place to stay. I am not planning on going back, because of the insane restrictions that were placed upon me. (Example: I brought this phone after I left. Keep in mind I was “forbidden” from having any way to access the Internet under their roof, even AFTER I became a legal adult.) Because of these restrictions, I was put into a position where I could not support myself.
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I try to contact my mom or dad, but instead of directly talking to me they make someone else irrelevant to the conversation become a middleman.
I did contact the police, but they were told by my parents that there was no social security that arrived in the mail.
Fortunately, SOMEONE must be watching over me, because I now have a place to stay, however this arrangement isn’t solid.
It’s freezing cold outside, I just need to find some place to stay in case the accommodations don’t work out. They know this, but I’m sure that I need to be “taught a lesson.”
I have an assistance dog which alerts and responds to my chronic seizure condition. I have her because I don’t have any internal warning, I literally don’t feel a seizure is coming on and will just drop to the floor at any point. My assistance dog alerts a few minutes beforehand so I can lay down safely and let someone know I’m about to have a seizure. I have social media and post things about having my assistance dog.
This comment is on such a video where I was filming my assistance dog and I doing a normal grocery shop and she ends up alerting. She is basically saying I should not have seizures in public because it’ll traumatize children. I just can’t even.
Iâm 24 years old and still living with my grandparents, who basically raised me and are like my parents. I live in NYC and rent here is insane (studios are literally like $3,000/month), so moving out right now just isnât realistic. The good news is I just got a job that starts in September that should finally give me a stable salary, and Iâm hoping to move out with roommates once that happens.
But until then, my situation at home is honestly making me feel trapped.
They basically wonât let me stay out past sundown. If Iâm out after like 8pm, I get bombarded with texts:
âWhere are you?â
âWhen are you coming home?â
âCome home now.â
The screenshot is an example of what itâs like.
The frustrating part is Iâm not doing anything crazy. Iâm literally just getting dinner with friends, grabbing a drink, or hanging out in the park. But I canât even enjoy myself because I know my phone is going to start blowing up with messages demanding I come home.
If I stay out late, theyâve even locked me out of the apartment before and Iâve had to sleep on the stoop. Thatâs actually happened.
Because of this, Iâve basically stopped going out. My friends invite me to late dinners, parties, or just hanging out, and I end up saying no most of the time because itâs not worth the stress when I get home.
I feel really isolated and honestly kind of stuck. Iâm counting down the months until I can move out when my job starts in September, but right now it feels like I canât live my life or build friendships without being interrogated about where I am.
My dad told my sister she needed to ask me to borrow it and she didnât. My mum seems to think that since I havenât passed my test yet my sister should be allowed to just help herself to my car even though itâs registered in my name. Iâve said she can drive it when she shows me proof of insurance since sheâs had 3 accidents in 3 years and it is illegal to drive in the UK without insurance. Even if she drives responsibly she canât control other drivers and I canât afford to replace it.
I have been fighting to get my grandparents care for the past 2 years. My mom has been fighting me the entire way so I don’t spend â¨ď¸her inheritanceâ¨ď¸. (She actually admitted this) She kept saying she would sell her house and move in with my grandparents so we wouldn’t have to pay for care. She finally put her house on the market in June, but 100k MORE then the next most expensive house in her neighborhood. Obviously it hasn’t had any offers.
Fed up with her, I finally found a caretaker within my budget so I could pay out of pocket myself. My mom and brother agreed that they would reimburse me for what they could.
The caretaker visited twice, but my grandmother with undiagnosed dementia or alzheimer’s was unable to handle it. The caretaker called me to let me know that they are doing ok on their own, but clearly need help with food and getting my grandmother medical care.
I want to quit. I have been fighting this battle for 2 years and am starting to absolutely loath my family. Between my mom’s selfishness and greed, my brother’s inaction, my grandmother’s dementia making irrational choices, and my grandfather’s inability to go against her, I feel like I am fighting a brick wall. My grandparents are incapable of making rational decisions on their care, and no one else is willing to do the right thing.
I am at a point where I either fly in every month to check on them myself, or call APS. I dont know what else I can do.
So, normally I donât vent to subreddits, but recently while having a talk with my father (who knows I cross-dress and that I’m a Femboy), he said that what I was doing goes against everything he knows. He wasn’t drunk, or ever on drugs, and he said that straight to my face. His girlfriend also only “Tolerates that I’m gay” because she “Respects me enough not to complain.” I’m now living with other family, who has no knowledge of my sexuality or my cross-dressing. And even while not there, he chastises me and tells me Iâm gonna lose other people too if I keep âacting the way I amâ. I wanted to know if you think there is any way I can ever convince my dad’s family, specifically my father, that what I’m doing is not wrong and that things can be normal.
Warm & fuzzy, ya know!!! This coming from the poor excuse of a man that beat & [exploited] me until my mom and I left when I was 14. (Im 28 now for reference and heâs still THIS evil)
I was kept out of school because I was so covered in bruises at times. My parents would coach me on what to say if a teacher ever asked about marks on me.
Sometimes I think itâd be great to figure out a way to ruin his life but heâs not worth the trouble
My daughter is turning 21 this month. She lives on campus, and most of her friends have recently moved away. She made plans for the evening but didnât want to spend her birthday morning and afternoon alone, so she reached out to her dad (who lives nearby) to see if he could spend some time with her.
He told her he already had plans â heâs going to a theme park with friends to celebrate their birthday, and he invited my daughterâs younger sister to go with him instead.
This is the text her little sister sent to their dad to ask about it.
My mom is toxic and I’m keeping her at as much distance and no contact as possible until I finally move from the County. She lives 5 minutes from me. I’m currently away on a trip and I get a voicemail from my mom saying she took my package for safety. Sure enough, my doorbell camera shows her taking it. I called her to return it that night because my roommate is home.
I tried to take a second day off of work this week and this was the response on Tuesday after sending the letter my therapist wrote for me. They then proceeded to wake me up at 0630 in the morning and threaten me with âmaking some changes,â which included cutting off my internet access (my only way to talk to my boyfriend and support networks), and they said theyâd kick me out if I got fired for this. My Adderall withdrawal was to the point that my therapist said I sounded like my mental health had regressed years, and I was sick with a sore throat and migraine as well. But because it wasnât a fever or vomiting I âwasnât sick.â Putting my plans to leave into overdrive now, even if my job doesnât pay much. Oh and for a bit more context, I have over 100 hours of sick leave literally because of these kinds of health issues đ
(we broke up/decided to take a break to work on our respective mental health a month ago and iâve moved back home for now, but we are still very much best friends and have been texting nearly 24/7- i was already livetexting the fight to him and was actually actively talking him out of texting her to yell at her, lmao. which to be clear he has never done, they have had a handful of conversations tops, all of them smalltalk)
For context, the phone he is referring to is a phone he stole from me while snooping through my things when I was 16. (I saw it on his desk and asked for it back.)
My father. I keep extremely low contact due to MANY factors and the last time I did cave and call him, he hung up on me because I said I needed to go eat dinner.
The song he sent me was an AI singer and full of emotional manipulation. I didnât even open it, I just googled it and found out itâs been fooling older people who think itâs a real guy.
Not as insane as a lot of you deal with, but I thought I would share because the âforsakenâ made me laugh.
Caught the bus somewhere the other day, as I donât have a car. The only train back to near my home was delayed. I had previously called my step dad asking âhey, my train will be there soon, can you pick me up then? He said ok. I then notice that my train was delayed and the next bus would be in an hour, so I texted him that. He then callled me and screamed at me through the phone for not being at the station, before going back home and telling me to get home myself. I live half an hour walk from the station.
Context:
I found this screenshot from 4 years ago when I was 18. My parents had kicked me out from home when I was 18 during my senior year of high school.
Before I get accused of doing something wrong for my family to kick me out: no, I never did [illegal substances], alcohol, talked back, anything. We were a very traditional Asian household. I was the bedtime at 9PM type. I had straight Aâs, a full-ride scholarship, never went out with friends, volunteered every weekend, played violin, etc. My parents had tried asking me to move back home with them before this text and still to this day.
And no, I did not spam multiple notifications of âmom mom momâ, it was one single paragraph.
I did not consent to having my images fed into the machine at all, btw.
ETA: I should’ve also added that she also lied about getting diagnosed with cancer. She does not have cancer. She told the investigator that she had cancer and therefore cannot work. Again, she does NOT have cancer.
He is incredibly deep into the youtube rabbithole of “manifesting” and he tells me constantly that my mind can’t tell the difference between a memory and a thought so if i convince myself something will happen enough, it will happen. is he insane or am i overreacting?
For context: I live abroad, but will come home for summer and needed to get flight tickets for that. Today my dad checked the flight prices at around 8:30 am and decided that they were good enough to buy (my parents pay for them), so he decided to call me. He couldn’t get me, because it was 7:30 am in my country, and I usually sleep until 9:00. The voice message isn’t him telling me they want to buy the tickets, it’s him cursing me out for not picking up the phone because I was sleeping. He literally made me think someone [passed away] or got seriously hurt, just because ryanair got lower prices.
He also later decided to act like a 4yo, when I was actually trying to buy the tickets (I use my account on ryanair but his card), and proceeded to hang up on me when I called him, and then texted me “don’t call me I’m sleeping” just because when he called me I was actually sleeping.
EDIT: I can’t work in the country where I study because I have no place to stay here during summer and I can’t get a place to stay because there are no places other than hotels and airbnb’s, which are too expensive (there is a really huge housing problem here). I also got a job I will be working when I’m back home. Also my dad only spends like a week home ever month so it’s not that bad guys, It’s annoying but not that bad.
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